tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post1740432632599235832..comments2023-11-13T17:33:16.267+07:00Comments on Shilo When I Was Young: Don't call me desiGargoylehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01719949278784703463noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-36065861607324165612008-04-14T15:07:00.000+07:002008-04-14T15:07:00.000+07:00I recommend reading this post and then getting on ...I recommend reading this post and then getting on with your lives: http://shilo70.blogspot.com/2008/01/two-ply-indian.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-24089854584408914122008-04-14T14:42:00.000+07:002008-04-14T14:42:00.000+07:00spot on g-man! am an abd who moved to australia an...spot on g-man! am an abd who moved to australia and the aussie born indians dont seem to have the defensiveness of their north american counterparts. strange! and such a relief to not have to do the forced desi with a difference thing all the time. you get so caught up in it when your thereyou don't even realize youre doing it! medusa007, theres a whole world out there man, a much more fun world.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-68227016657617736712008-04-14T00:29:00.000+07:002008-04-14T00:29:00.000+07:00Maybe one of these days I will :DMaybe one of these days I will :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-74537641314321733702008-04-13T11:22:00.000+07:002008-04-13T11:22:00.000+07:00And Turbancowboy, my sympathies. My friend in Lond...And Turbancowboy, my sympathies. My friend in London has the same problem - he says he gets no prejudice/racism from anybody else - white Brits, French, Aussies... but gets it from the Brit-born Indians.<BR/><BR/>I've seen it here in the US too - there's a certain smirk that you just want to slap.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-34018195574985156102008-04-13T11:19:00.000+07:002008-04-13T11:19:00.000+07:00>And G-Man, I am not confused - I am >brown and I ...>And G-Man, I am not confused - I am >brown and I like it.<BR/><BR/>Now I'm confused. In my comment I said "for people who claim NOT to be confused...".<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you like being brown--I'd imagine you don't have much of a choice there. But why does your brownness have to involve being prejudiced about brown people from India?<BR/><BR/>I'd love to hear what these prejudices are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-6411908800276710262008-04-13T10:42:00.000+07:002008-04-13T10:42:00.000+07:00Medusa007, I run into scores of computer engineers...Medusa007, I run into scores of computer engineers in CA all from India... and guess what? I have nothing to say to any them because they're from a TOTALLY different world.<BR/><BR/>What you need to be aware of, is that there are actually "desis" who speak ENGLISH and NOT Indian English (and certainly not the pidgin that passes for English in America). These desis date, have sexual relationships Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-59683938529781987242008-04-13T02:28:00.000+07:002008-04-13T02:28:00.000+07:00You know what Dheeraj? This may come as news to yo...You know what Dheeraj? This may come as news to you but *everyone* has "issues", as you call it. Growing up is not a picnic for *anybody*. That's not what this discussion is about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-71419130476404755112008-04-13T02:24:00.000+07:002008-04-13T02:24:00.000+07:00Stop triviliasing issues folks. groewing up outsid...Stop triviliasing issues folks. groewing up outside the norm is not a picnic, as i know from experience. Check it out here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=trUR8-Kui3IAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-41263652434817525002008-04-12T16:52:00.000+07:002008-04-12T16:52:00.000+07:00I think the pt Gargoye is trying to make is that o...I think the pt Gargoye is trying to make is that outside India, you're almost obliged to view everything, but everything, from a desi pt of view. I chafed at that myself. Returned to India to preserve what little objectivity I had left ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-64301020208436807992008-04-12T16:48:00.000+07:002008-04-12T16:48:00.000+07:00It takes all kinds turbancowboy. but when you make...It takes all kinds turbancowboy. but when you makes generalizations you're merely stereotyping. Some of us make an attempt see people as people first, in spite of our own prejudices.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-28494305525941027422008-04-12T16:43:00.000+07:002008-04-12T16:43:00.000+07:00FYI Medusa, my prejudices are based on fact too. I...FYI Medusa, my prejudices are based on fact too. I've been patronised by the coconut motherf*&^%&@ ever since I moved to London. The ones with quarter my IQ, an eighth my travel experience. Parochial is right, Gargoyle. I'd get more world awareness and independent thought in Patinda than with these ass****s.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-56348436418004389722008-04-12T16:28:00.000+07:002008-04-12T16:28:00.000+07:00Oh come on. I work in silicon valley and believe m...Oh come on. I work in silicon valley and believe me my prejudices are based on fact. And G-Man, I am not confused - I am brown and I like it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-51215169390219623442008-04-12T16:21:00.000+07:002008-04-12T16:21:00.000+07:00What pisses me off is that "they" seem to assume t...What pisses me off is that "they" seem to assume that all those in the "des" are unaware and hidebound. For eg what Gargoyle mentioned about the south asian women not reading, and implication I have often encountered that all of "us" go in for arranged marriages, are fat and have never seen an indie movie, ever.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8960337.post-52190139793065632172008-04-11T22:56:00.000+07:002008-04-11T22:56:00.000+07:00I've been reading that blog and wondering why peop...I've been reading that blog and wondering why people who so often proudly claim to not be "confused" in the "C" part of ABCD, spend SO much time being defensive about colour and Indian identity.<BR/><BR/>One of the stereotypes in India (as you know) of American-born Indians of our generation is that their parents are stuck in a time-warp and are from an India of 30 years ago. I came here all Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com