Friday, July 05, 2013

10 good things about first dates when you're over 39

1. You don't feel the need to apologise for your tastes - music, books, movies, anything.
2. Nor do you pretend to "interesting" tastes that you don't have.
3. You still agonise about what to wear but deep inside you know that it won't matter beyond the first two minutes.
4. And you don't worry beyond these two minutes about the four extra kilos you could have done without.
5. You understand that the fate of the date - or indeed, the planet - does not hang on whether your hair is frizzy.
6. In fact you have come to terms with the fact that the possibility of uncontrollable frizz is directly proportional to the importance of the date.
7. You worry that who you are won't match up to what you look like, rather than the other way round.
8. You don't ruin the whole evening for yourself by second guessing or playing games. You actually go out to have fun.
9. If you do something embarassing like spilling or breaking things, you laugh and move on. Again, you have accepted that the chance of these things happening is directly proportional to how much you want to make an impression.
10. It doesn't matter who pays for what. It's a non-subject. You do stuff and it gets paid for by one or the other. That's all there is to it.

4 comments:

Meetali Mukherjee said...

Lovely, Mina. I'd like to add that you'd be quite fine with your date too feeling the same things and would not judge him for his looks, dress, tastes, etc. That would be real fun date.
Meetali

Gargoyle said...

That's true Meetali, it works both ways and actually made for a fun evening, though the potential relationship did not work out.

Extra No:1 said...

It is very difficult to be in the mind frame 'you're going out, just to have fun', The moment you start putting in an effort, an objective has been set. I'm still struggling, to first make the initial attempt if at all, and then to maybe try and have fun while i'm at it. So god job you!

Gargoyle said...

Ha ha that's because you still have some way to go before you hit 40

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